Next week in Washington we are voting on
Referendum 71, which asks voters to approve the "Everything but Marriage Law". My thoughts:
I'm interested in politics and I like to discuss them. I like to discuss with people who agree with me and people who disagree with me. I learned a long time ago that different ideas are an important part of human relationship and freedom. In many parts of the world, people are ostracized, persecuted, tortured or killed for speaking their mind. I do not take this for granted.
While this is a note about an issue on our ballot for Tuesday's election, this is not a note about politics. This is a note about civil rights, and about love and being grateful for it: Referendum 71.
Please vote to approve this important Referendum.
Maybe you're already voting for this. If you are, it warms my heart and gives me hope. Please vote. This is really important. If you're not, please consider my plea.
I understand that their are many who believe it is wrong to be homosexual and that gay and lesbian couples should not be permitted to be married. To be clear, I do not agree. In fact, I very strongly disagree. I'm passionate about marriage equality. But I won't try to change any minds about that (not right now, anyway). That's not what is at issue here.
What is at issue are human rights, compassion and family. Marriage is a religious institution, shared by many faiths. People hold deep and personal views about marriage, as is appropriate. Churches (as well as Synagogues, Mosques, and all other houses of worship) should have the freedom to decide who they will and won't marry. This should not extend to limiting the rights of others when it comes to the eyes of civil law. This law deals with things like being able to take time off of work (with or without pay as dictated by employer) to care for a partner (as I would be able to for Jay, and I know he could for me), and a wide range of other benefits that we heterosexual people (as well as parents and children) take for granted.
I cannot imagine any good reason to not allow couples who already face so much discrimination and fear to have this security and comfort that at least their government won't condemn them for their commitment to each other.
Please vote to approve this referendum EVEN IF you believe that marriage must be between a man and a woman. I believe you can approve this referendum out of compassion and generosity towards others, without compromising your beliefs.
This isn't about politics, or being conservative or liberal, or gay or straight, or Christian or not Christian. This is about extending rights to all of our friends, family and neighbors.
Also, it doesn't cost anything. Well, it costs about $300,000 to change some forms and things. A small price to pay for changing people's lives and honoring human dignity.
Please.